Are you aware that there are infinite things that can cause pain in the area of your back? When you think of it, are there many functions in your day to day life that don’t involve the movement of your back in some way? I don’t think so. It plays a major role in your every day living. Think about what your back does….your lower back anchors the body for action…it represents the support of your upper body. It’s involved in pushing, pulling, lifting, balancing…..almost every moving function. Not only does your back have an influence on the pain in your back….so do the hips, the shoulders, your neck, arms and legs….the list goes on. You have your physical influences, like you slipped down the stairs, you got in an accident, you played football all weekend and got hit a number of times. You also have physical influences like you broke your ankle and now you are on crutches for a while. The whole change in the way you carry your body is causing your back to feel sore. Well like physical influences….I assure you there are also energetic or non-physical influences as well. What are they? There are wonderful messages in the pains in your body. You can clear a lot of life issues and the pain those life issues are causing, just by finding out what is in the messages they have for you!
Have you ever noticed how you have pain in your back only at certain times? What is the message in that? The pain you sometimes feel in your lower back, interestingly enough, only shows up when you are making major money decisions, like buying a new house, new car or new outfit for work. The pain only shows up in your lower back when you think of leaving your current relationship because you find it hard to deal with what is going on…..it’s like running from it. Then there is the pain that shows up in the middle part of your back, every once in a while. That happens when you have to make a presentation in front of people at work. Why wouldn’t your pain be there all the time….not just here and there when you have to do something that you find hard to do?
You may say, ‘oh no, my back pain isn’t because I have to make a presentation at work on Tuesday. It’s there because I helped my brother move all weekend long. I did a lot of lifting!’ What a coincidence that it happens to be the weekend before you have to make a presentation at work. What I would ask you is ‘how do you feel about making your presentation?’ I wouldn’t even ask you about your back at this point. After clearing the life issues of the things that bothered you about making that presentation in front of people…..I would then ask how your back was. Your answer would be ‘it feels way different!’ You may have done a lot of lifting helping your brother move all weekend….but as quick as your back became sore with all the moving…..it is as quick that your back will feel better once you clear what is causing it.
Your back pain isn’t only because you’ve been standing at work all day. It may be triggering something in you. In your life, do you have issues around not standing up for yourself? Do you feel like people run you down or take you for granted….they may not take you seriously at all? Have you considered looking at what is causing that? You may have pain in your back, and what may be causing it relates to your life issue of not standing up for yourself.
Do you have issues of not feeling supported by yourself or the others around you? Maybe you feel no one supports you in the things you want to do for yourself. That life issue of not feeling supported, if it is not cleared, it can eventually reflect as pain in your back.
Can you clear it so you don’t have issues around standing up for yourself or not feeling supported….reflecting in no back pain in the spot you always feel it? You bet you can!
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
Thursday, August 5, 2010
What exactly are you saying?
When you communicate with others, have you noticed your conversations go off into a whirl wind of ‘miscommunication’? How many times have conversations finished before their time? What do I mean by that?
It is so common for people in general to make assumptions about what is being said, without getting clarification as to what it meant. Someone may say, ‘you make me so mad when you do that’…… ‘You don’t support me’……. ‘When you talk to people like that it really bothers me’. You may feel those are clear messages….but to me, they aren’t! When someone talks like that, they are only reacting in that moment and it may have nothing to do with what is actually going on. What is causing them to react that way?
If someone were to say to you, ‘you make me mad when you do that’, do you know what specifically you are doing that makes them mad? If they came to me to help them find out what bothers them about what you are doing, I would ask more questions to get clarity. It may sound something like this (for ease in writing, I will talk like you are a wife)……..it bugs me how my wife always talks to people like that. How is she talking to them? She’s always sticking her nose in other people’s business. What bothers you about that? It embarrasses me when she does that. What about that embarrasses you? I just wish she would stop bothering people and leave them alone. How is she bothering them? She gets talking away and it takes forever to get any place when we go shopping. Well could you let her talk and you go do your running around and meet her back at a certain time? We went shopping together so she should just shop with me. How do you feel about standing there having nothing to contribute to the conversation or nothing to say period? How do you feel about leaving her alone with other people or you being left alone? I hate it. I did enough of that as a child and I sure don’t want to be waiting any more.
That can be a real life situation. Messages are not always clear. I kid you not. As a coach, I personally have come to experience getting clarity on what people say can lead to the most miraculous shifts in someone’s energy. That man standing there sees his wife talking away with another person. He becomes bothered about the situation at that moment and reacts. The cause of it was an issue he had in childhood where he had to wait and wait and wait. Now as an adult he doesn’t want to have to wait anymore. Can I clear that so this man no longer has issues around waiting? You bet I can! Not only will this man feel more peace in shopping with his wife…..so will his wife!
When you are talking with your spouse, partner, family or friends….you may think you know what they are saying but do you really? When someone says ‘that is bothering me’….what is in the word ‘that’? When they say ‘it always happens’….what is in the word ‘it’?
You can communicate with much more clarity and even heal your relationships when you don’t make assumptions, when you don’t make accusations, when you don’t have insinuations or when you don’t imply things. You know when you meet someone for the first time, you ask a lot of questions to get clarity on what they think or do. If you treated every conversation like that, you will be on your way to finding what your issues, causes and reactions are all about. In working with the energy in the body, the messages will stand out as to what the real issue is behind the reaction.
Also, the unfinished messages like ‘do this or else…’ or ‘when your dad gets home….’ or ‘if they don’t give me that raise this week….’ where do they lead you? What is being implied with that statement? Finished or unfinished, it leaves the door open to interpretation of some kind. Is your intention to be misunderstood?
It is so common for people in general to make assumptions about what is being said, without getting clarification as to what it meant. Someone may say, ‘you make me so mad when you do that’…… ‘You don’t support me’……. ‘When you talk to people like that it really bothers me’. You may feel those are clear messages….but to me, they aren’t! When someone talks like that, they are only reacting in that moment and it may have nothing to do with what is actually going on. What is causing them to react that way?
If someone were to say to you, ‘you make me mad when you do that’, do you know what specifically you are doing that makes them mad? If they came to me to help them find out what bothers them about what you are doing, I would ask more questions to get clarity. It may sound something like this (for ease in writing, I will talk like you are a wife)……..it bugs me how my wife always talks to people like that. How is she talking to them? She’s always sticking her nose in other people’s business. What bothers you about that? It embarrasses me when she does that. What about that embarrasses you? I just wish she would stop bothering people and leave them alone. How is she bothering them? She gets talking away and it takes forever to get any place when we go shopping. Well could you let her talk and you go do your running around and meet her back at a certain time? We went shopping together so she should just shop with me. How do you feel about standing there having nothing to contribute to the conversation or nothing to say period? How do you feel about leaving her alone with other people or you being left alone? I hate it. I did enough of that as a child and I sure don’t want to be waiting any more.
That can be a real life situation. Messages are not always clear. I kid you not. As a coach, I personally have come to experience getting clarity on what people say can lead to the most miraculous shifts in someone’s energy. That man standing there sees his wife talking away with another person. He becomes bothered about the situation at that moment and reacts. The cause of it was an issue he had in childhood where he had to wait and wait and wait. Now as an adult he doesn’t want to have to wait anymore. Can I clear that so this man no longer has issues around waiting? You bet I can! Not only will this man feel more peace in shopping with his wife…..so will his wife!
When you are talking with your spouse, partner, family or friends….you may think you know what they are saying but do you really? When someone says ‘that is bothering me’….what is in the word ‘that’? When they say ‘it always happens’….what is in the word ‘it’?
You can communicate with much more clarity and even heal your relationships when you don’t make assumptions, when you don’t make accusations, when you don’t have insinuations or when you don’t imply things. You know when you meet someone for the first time, you ask a lot of questions to get clarity on what they think or do. If you treated every conversation like that, you will be on your way to finding what your issues, causes and reactions are all about. In working with the energy in the body, the messages will stand out as to what the real issue is behind the reaction.
Also, the unfinished messages like ‘do this or else…’ or ‘when your dad gets home….’ or ‘if they don’t give me that raise this week….’ where do they lead you? What is being implied with that statement? Finished or unfinished, it leaves the door open to interpretation of some kind. Is your intention to be misunderstood?
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