There is learning in making tea?

Recently my husband gave me a wonderful lesson in learning. It was Saturday morning and he chose to make tea for both of us. He doesn’t normally do that and when I walked into the kitchen I saw him take his time to fill up the kettle with water and then look in the cupboards for the tea and tea pot. The time it took him to make the tea was longer than if I had done it myself. The whole experience reminded me about the learning process we all go through when we learn something new, doesn’t matter what it is. At first we go slowly through all the steps to make sure we find everything we need and that we are doing it right. Once we know how it goes, we can move through it more quickly. Something as simple as making tea by yourself in someone’s home for the first time, you may look in a number of cupboards before you find the cupboards that hold the tea, the tea pot and the kettle. You will eventually find everything and get the tea made. If you were to make tea in that home more than once and twice, it would take you no time at all because eventually you would know where everything is. Can you learn everything you need to learn in one try or in one sitting? Maybe you can. Most of the time it will take more than one try to get the learning you need from the experience. You see you have no idea if the owner of that home decides its time to change the cupboards around. Where will the tea, teapot and kettle be next time?

Eliminate your reactions

If you kept everything you ever bought, received or taken on, what would you have…and where would you put it all? If your physical body couldn't eliminate all of its waste products what would happen? Can you imagine what your world would be like if you couldn’t eliminate anything?

Think of your own life issues…which ones would you like to eliminate…..being overweight and continually having to diet….dealing with that person you hate at the store….maybe the scar on your right arm…the one you hate looking at? With any life issue…when it is eliminated from your life, what does it leave you with? What does it leave you without? When they are gone….it leaves you with peace of mind around that issue….like something has been lifted…maybe you feel more relaxed or more settled. What it leaves you without… are your problems, your challenges, your bothers…the issue itself. It leaves you without the things that you don’t want to be around…the things you find hardest to be at peace with. It also leaves you without any reaction or conflict.

There are physical elimination tools used every day….the garbage can, the toilet and the city dump are three that come to my mind rather quickly. There are energetic elimination tools used every day….alternative therapies are one and the exit portals in your body are another. Your energy is cleared through exit portals….for example, they are in your feet, your hands, the head and the tailbone….to mention a few. Another energetic tool is the black hole. It is the energetic garbage can. The most unique thing… is when energy hits the black hole it is gone forever.

Think of eliminating things you do, that could negatively affect the people around you. What do you think they would be? Consider eliminating your reactions from your every day life. Your reactions would include getting mad….being annoyed….shutting down….lashing out at someone…cutting someone down in a meeting….even getting upset because your daughter stayed out too late last night. When you react, you are expressing the conflict you have inside your self. It affects the people around you…just like when other people react, it affects you as well.

If you continue to react and react….the reactions will create an accumulated affect which will make it harder and harder to be at peace with what is going on. That accumulated affect will impact the people around you. You can clear accumulated affects of life issues for one person or for groups of people…the same general issue…all at one time. You can clear your whole family of issues you have in common. When it comes to energy and how it works….you can eliminate a lot in a very short time.

You can identify and clear core issues on all levels. Finding the cause of any issue and eliminating it makes it possible to release the physical symptoms so the body can rejuvenate and regenerate naturally. There is no need to hold on to anything any longer.

You Said What Causes My Back Pain?

Are you aware that there are infinite things that can cause pain in the area of your back? When you think of it, are there many functions in your day to day life that don’t involve the movement of your back in some way? I don’t think so. It plays a major role in your every day living. Think about what your back does….your lower back anchors the body for action…it represents the support of your upper body. It’s involved in pushing, pulling, lifting, balancing…..almost every moving function. Not only does your back have an influence on the pain in your back….so do the hips, the shoulders, your neck, arms and legs….the list goes on. You have your physical influences, like you slipped down the stairs, you got in an accident, you played football all weekend and got hit a number of times. You also have physical influences like you broke your ankle and now you are on crutches for a while. The whole change in the way you carry your body is causing your back to feel sore. Well like physical influences….I assure you there are also energetic or non-physical influences as well. What are they? There are wonderful messages in the pains in your body. You can clear a lot of life issues and the pain those life issues are causing, just by finding out what is in the messages they have for you!

Have you ever noticed how you have pain in your back only at certain times? What is the message in that? The pain you sometimes feel in your lower back, interestingly enough, only shows up when you are making major money decisions, like buying a new house, new car or new outfit for work. The pain only shows up in your lower back when you think of leaving your current relationship because you find it hard to deal with what is going on…..it’s like running from it. Then there is the pain that shows up in the middle part of your back, every once in a while. That happens when you have to make a presentation in front of people at work. Why wouldn’t your pain be there all the time….not just here and there when you have to do something that you find hard to do?

You may say, ‘oh no, my back pain isn’t because I have to make a presentation at work on Tuesday. It’s there because I helped my brother move all weekend long. I did a lot of lifting!’ What a coincidence that it happens to be the weekend before you have to make a presentation at work. What I would ask you is ‘how do you feel about making your presentation?’ I wouldn’t even ask you about your back at this point. After clearing the life issues of the things that bothered you about making that presentation in front of people…..I would then ask how your back was. Your answer would be ‘it feels way different!’ You may have done a lot of lifting helping your brother move all weekend….but as quick as your back became sore with all the moving…..it is as quick that your back will feel better once you clear what is causing it.

Your back pain isn’t only because you’ve been standing at work all day. It may be triggering something in you. In your life, do you have issues around not standing up for yourself? Do you feel like people run you down or take you for granted….they may not take you seriously at all? Have you considered looking at what is causing that? You may have pain in your back, and what may be causing it relates to your life issue of not standing up for yourself.

Do you have issues of not feeling supported by yourself or the others around you? Maybe you feel no one supports you in the things you want to do for yourself. That life issue of not feeling supported, if it is not cleared, it can eventually reflect as pain in your back.

Can you clear it so you don’t have issues around standing up for yourself or not feeling supported….reflecting in no back pain in the spot you always feel it? You bet you can!

What exactly are you saying?

When you communicate with others, have you noticed your conversations go off into a whirl wind of ‘miscommunication’? How many times have conversations finished before their time? What do I mean by that?

It is so common for people in general to make assumptions about what is being said, without getting clarification as to what it meant. Someone may say, ‘you make me so mad when you do that’…… ‘You don’t support me’……. ‘When you talk to people like that it really bothers me’. You may feel those are clear messages….but to me, they aren’t! When someone talks like that, they are only reacting in that moment and it may have nothing to do with what is actually going on. What is causing them to react that way?

If someone were to say to you, ‘you make me mad when you do that’, do you know what specifically you are doing that makes them mad? If they came to me to help them find out what bothers them about what you are doing, I would ask more questions to get clarity. It may sound something like this (for ease in writing, I will talk like you are a wife)……..it bugs me how my wife always talks to people like that. How is she talking to them? She’s always sticking her nose in other people’s business. What bothers you about that? It embarrasses me when she does that. What about that embarrasses you? I just wish she would stop bothering people and leave them alone. How is she bothering them? She gets talking away and it takes forever to get any place when we go shopping. Well could you let her talk and you go do your running around and meet her back at a certain time? We went shopping together so she should just shop with me. How do you feel about standing there having nothing to contribute to the conversation or nothing to say period? How do you feel about leaving her alone with other people or you being left alone? I hate it. I did enough of that as a child and I sure don’t want to be waiting any more.

That can be a real life situation. Messages are not always clear. I kid you not. As a coach, I personally have come to experience getting clarity on what people say can lead to the most miraculous shifts in someone’s energy. That man standing there sees his wife talking away with another person. He becomes bothered about the situation at that moment and reacts. The cause of it was an issue he had in childhood where he had to wait and wait and wait. Now as an adult he doesn’t want to have to wait anymore. Can I clear that so this man no longer has issues around waiting? You bet I can! Not only will this man feel more peace in shopping with his wife…..so will his wife!

When you are talking with your spouse, partner, family or friends….you may think you know what they are saying but do you really? When someone says ‘that is bothering me’….what is in the word ‘that’? When they say ‘it always happens’….what is in the word ‘it’?

You can communicate with much more clarity and even heal your relationships when you don’t make assumptions, when you don’t make accusations, when you don’t have insinuations or when you don’t imply things. You know when you meet someone for the first time, you ask a lot of questions to get clarity on what they think or do. If you treated every conversation like that, you will be on your way to finding what your issues, causes and reactions are all about. In working with the energy in the body, the messages will stand out as to what the real issue is behind the reaction.

Also, the unfinished messages like ‘do this or else…’ or ‘when your dad gets home….’ or ‘if they don’t give me that raise this week….’ where do they lead you? What is being implied with that statement? Finished or unfinished, it leaves the door open to interpretation of some kind. Is your intention to be misunderstood?

Weight Loss Issues

If you are the kind of person who feels you are overweight….lets look at what is causing it. Every person I have talked to about weight issues has tried changing their way of eating and have tried some kind of exercise regime. Has it worked? The common answer to that question has been no! Knowing that, where else can you go to try something different to give you the desired weight you want…..not only the desired weight…have the desired feelings to go with it?

Your body is ‘reacting’ to something that is going on in your life causing it to increase in size. How can you find out what it is? A great place to start is by looking at the beginning of your weight challenge. What was going on in your life at the time you started to put on weight? If there were a number of times where you put on weight, took it off and put it on again, what is in the repeat pattern? Every time you did that, what was the common element in the change? Were you going through some kind of life issue like a relationship or job change? Something had to happen for you to start to change in weight. Do you know what is was?

Another place to look is inside your body. If your body on the outside is spreading out, what is happening on the inside? Are your individual parts spreading out as well? Those parts can include your organs, your cells, your quantum particles, etc. Something inside of you is taking up more space. What is it? Physically, there could be more toxins and cellular waste. Non-physically, there could be the affects of the life issues going on around you! The life issues include those things in your life that are causing you some kind of stress or bother. If you don't deal with the life issues, they may start to get stuffed down inside you. They may start to weigh heavy on your mind which could reflect in your body shape and size. They may even start to take shape into something you don't want to be. Extra weight can be like a protective wall, maybe even a barrier between you and whatever it is you are dealing with. I encourage you to go past the food and exercise reasons behind overweight. Using your intuition, you can experience the world of change.

Yes you can take off those extra pounds in minutes. Yes you can fit back into your clothes from last year. Yes you can find the causes of the change in weight and start to lighten up. Notice when it all started and what was going on for you at the time. You can be with it but you don't have to be affected by it.

Excuses are what?

When you have a long term relationship like a marriage or partnership, as time goes by, excuses start to surface as to why you may not be so happy any more. You wish your partner would be more like you. You want your mate to have the same wants as you. You wish your partner would feel the same way about life in general as you do. What’s really happening? These repeated excuses that seem like disappointments are not because the relationship has gone sour or communications have ceased. Energetically speaking – an element in that is you want your partner to change instead of you having to change yourself. Think about that for a minute! You wish your partner would take an interest in what you like to do – well there are two avenues to go with that. One is clearing yourself, so you are okay that they don’t take an interest in what you like to do. The other is clearing your way to finding harmony between the both of you – appreciating and respecting your likes and dislikes in what you do and don’t do together. Regardless of who’s doing what, you can still come together in your marriage or long term relationship. Who has to change who?

Changing who and what?

When you don’t quite know who you are, or what you’re feeling, you may tend to want to make changes in your relationships or in the situations around you. You may feel you need to change jobs, leave your marriage, or wish your family situation was different….then things will be ‘better’ and you’ll find your self. If you change how your relationship is working, things will be better. When you get that new job, you will be so much happier. Once your mom is feeling better, your family can rest again. It’s all based on if and when things outside of you happen. Are you putting something on hold till ‘it’ happens?

You go outside of you to look to make the changes. Something about what’s going on around you is hard to deal with, causing you to want to make changes out ‘there’. This can leave you in a state of powerlessness. You have to wait for the world around you to change before you can change. Where is your focus and what really needs to change?

What do you feel has to change in your relationships or situations? For you to feel changes have to occur, there has to be something that isn’t working the way you would like it. You’re getting uncomfortable with what’s going on and that has to change. Consider what needs to change may be the changes within your self.

You are the only one who can create the changes you truly want in your life. If something is bothering you in your relationship, clear whatever it is in you and it will no longer be there to bother you. If it frustrates you to go to work because of the other staff, clear whatever is frustrating you and it will no longer have that affect on you. Whatever is affecting you in your life, you can easily clear it on an energetic level and it will not affect you again. It is that easy.