Can You Make Them Do Anything?

My mother-in-law is in the hospital right now after having her knee replacement done. I went to do reflexology on her feet and asked her to lift her leg up so I could put a pillow under her ankle. She couldn't lift her leg by herself. I noticed right away I was bothered by that. She had her knee replacement done 2 weeks ago and she still couldn't lift her leg. We did help her lift her leg so I could work on her feet. This brought about a huge revelation for me. You see, every day when we go in to visit her, I work on her feet and I also do energy work on her. What I came to see was I can do the reflexology and the energy work for her....but I can't do everything for her.

In life, you can help your family and friends and whoever, but you can't do it for them. Energetcially speaking, you can walk beside them, but you can't walk for them. You can help them breath, but you can't breath for them. You can lead them but you can't make them follow. You can only do so much to support the people around you and they have to still take the necessary steps to do for themself. If you find you are the kind of person who is bothered by this....there may be a number of things going on. It can be anything from the need to control the people around you, all the way to you having trouble trusting the process other people have to go through for themself. Those are only a few things this may be showing you.

Even if you make them do 'it' once, you can't make them do it all the time. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. You can show it how, but you can't convince it's the best thing for it. Sometimes in the process, the horse has to try something else before it knows the real value of drinking the water.

Suicide or what?

Recently, I have heard of a number of people talking about committing suicide. They can’t handle what is going on. I remember going through a phase in my life where I had these thoughts myself. What’s your take on all of this? Do you think the people who talk about suicide really want to ‘end it all’? For me, I came to see it wasn’t the death of the physical body I wanted. I only wanted to end all the awful thoughts I was having. I wanted them to go away and give me peace of mind.

I have been looking a great deal at my body, mind and spirit. One morning, I saw something really interesting. Through my life there were specific times where my body, mind and spirit had actually died of an unnatural death.

As I became more aware of what it was showing me, I came to see it was something that happened in reaction to what was going on at the time. I didn’t like to look at my body. I didn’t think my mind was very smart. My spirit had died. I am now choosing to clear through that ‘stuff’ and bring Sheila back to life, in body, mind and spirit. Sheila is now being born again. In the process of me being born again, I now see life all around me. My body is rejuvenating, my mind is waking up and my spirit is free to live life as Sheila.

When I look at living now from this new perspective, I can say I am experiencing the death of my awful thoughts, giving me more peace of mind than I have ever had before.

Relating to others around you...relating to your Self

Let’s look at the relationships around you today. In the relationship with your partner/spouse, how do you relate with each other? In the relationship between you and each one of your children, how do you relate with each other? With every relationship that is important to you, how do you relate with each other? If you are ‘strong’ in relating with each other, your ‘internal dynamics’ will be strong between the two of you. It will mean you will not be affected by the ‘external world’ around you!

If you and your partner/spouse relate strongly with each other, you won’t be affected by for example, the in-laws or friends who may try to influence some part of the relationship between the two of you. The same goes with each one of your children. There will be a ‘strong’ feeling between the two of you. When you come to feel that strength, you can move onto the family unit as a whole. Everyone in the family can relate coming from a place of strength with each other.

Let’s keep moving forward…what about your relationship with God? Are you strong in relating with God? If there is a weakness there, you will feel it. Now, what about your Self? Are you strong in relating with/to your Self? That may sound odd, but I assure you, if you have a weakness with your Self, you will feel it when you think about relating to your Self. By clearing your weaknesses, you will be in a stronger place within your Self….and you will feel it!