Relating to others around you...relating to your Self

Let’s look at the relationships around you today. In the relationship with your partner/spouse, how do you relate with each other? In the relationship between you and each one of your children, how do you relate with each other? With every relationship that is important to you, how do you relate with each other? If you are ‘strong’ in relating with each other, your ‘internal dynamics’ will be strong between the two of you. It will mean you will not be affected by the ‘external world’ around you!

If you and your partner/spouse relate strongly with each other, you won’t be affected by for example, the in-laws or friends who may try to influence some part of the relationship between the two of you. The same goes with each one of your children. There will be a ‘strong’ feeling between the two of you. When you come to feel that strength, you can move onto the family unit as a whole. Everyone in the family can relate coming from a place of strength with each other.

Let’s keep moving forward…what about your relationship with God? Are you strong in relating with God? If there is a weakness there, you will feel it. Now, what about your Self? Are you strong in relating with/to your Self? That may sound odd, but I assure you, if you have a weakness with your Self, you will feel it when you think about relating to your Self. By clearing your weaknesses, you will be in a stronger place within your Self….and you will feel it!

Who's in control of who?

With Valentine’s Day around the corner…I feel one of the most important qualities in a relationship with your partner is to accept the decisions they make and to support them in those decisions. That is without saying anything to the contrary! Easy? Are you kidding me! It has to be one of the toughest things for me to overcome. I’m not only talking about my husband, I’m talking about the majority of my relationships with people. In looking back, anytime I’ve ‘reacted’ to their decisions in the past, it hasn’t been a good experience. It almost felt like I wished I wouldn’t have said anything.

‘Reacting’ shows up when you try to talk them out of their decision for some reason. It can come from thinking you know what would be better than they do. It can come from those times where you thought you were smarter or it can go deep down to where you wanted them to do what you wanted them to do (maybe be with you instead of going out with their friends). Talk about controlling issues. I know I’ve come from all those places at one time or another. It truly has been my reaction that showed me my lessons. If I don’t get it the first time, it shows up again. The Universe is so good about making sure I get it one of these times.

Almost every time I’ve reacted to some of the decisions my husband has made, I’ve come to a place of seeing how what I did was wrong (if I could use that word); how what I did was not called for. One time he made plans to do some building in the garage. I talked him out of it so we could be together that night. He changed his plans and what ended up happening was I got a call to do some energy work on someone who needed it that night. If I would have accepted my husband’s decision to work in the garage, and supported him, we would have both been in a place to do what we were both called to do that night.

The other side of that is true as well. My husband made plans to do some building and I was at peace with those plans. I knew we would be together later. What happened was his plans changed and I got to be with him the whole night.

When we get ourselves out of the way allowing life to flow, it does so for the highest good of the whole involved. We don’t see what is planned for us or the others in our life for that matter. Are you okay with that? Who’s in control of who?

Now looking back, was it something from childhood?

When I work on people for their issues and pains, I can get to a place with some people where something in their childhood comes up as a source of their pain. Some get quite defensive saying they had a great childhood and how their mom and dad are wonderful loving people. I continue to follow the clearing of what I get and when I’m done, I ask about the pain. They say it’s gone.

I was sitting in the airport this past weekend. I saw a mom interacting with her two daughters. The youngest one looked about 2 years old and was being held by the mom. The other daughter I would say was about 4 years old. She wanted to be held by the mom as well. When her mom wouldn’t hold her, the 4 year old yelled at the 2 year old and then at the mom, as she was trying to push her way into her mom’s arms to be cuddled as well. It didn’t happen. She resigned herself to the fact that she wasn’t going to be held and with a mad look on her face, went to sit in another chair.

Something as simple as that could cause issues for that child when she gets to adulthood. If that child goes through a phase where she continues to be sent away, she may grow up to feel ‘no matter what she does her mother won’t give her attention’ and if her mother does give her attention, it may show up in the form of punishment for acting out or yelling. She may also grow up to resent her sister getting all the attention. It can start as young as that. Then as an adult, she may get into relationships where she goes through a stage where her partner doesn’t giver her much attention. Will it be because the partner is being mean? What is her partner showing her?

You see, your central nervous system registers everything that goes on in your life. The hurts and pains will manifest in your life through your physical body or in your relationships of all kinds. When they show up, they can easily be cleared at an energetic level. When you connect to the solution of your problem, your issue will be resolved, regardless of where it originated!